Strange behaviour or…?
By - HealthyEnthusiasm295
That is odd. I would just be blunt with and ask her if your family said anything to her and why she’s acting the way she is all of the sudden.
Last time I checked with her she said they’d not spoken. It’s quite possible though. However looking back there was weird stuff long before I noticed it. Eg.when we got together and I posted our photos on Fb, she never accepted the tags.
.. Another weird thing I forgot to add to my post was that when I graduated from uni a few months ago, when she congratulated me via text she called me Sister (my surname). Obviously this is weird bc it’s not like friends call each other that even within the church, and she certainly never did. It was a cross between a WTF and a LOL moment.
I’m not going to communicate any further bc in previous experiences with weird stuff like this, the other person (who is already not being authentic) tends to not be honest.
I suppose in retrospect it all feels like a game.
I’ve never experienced such weirdness as I do with mormon family and now this friend.
That is weird she called you sister if you’re close friends. Even when I was pretty Mormon I never called people my age brother or sister only ever older people. Id either just tell her that you think she’s being weird and figure what’s wrong or just stop talking to her all together.
I have learned that nearly all friendships have an expiration date.
My two best friends are people I met in my mid 30’s.
All my other previously “good friends” have become irrelevant as we have outgrown each other.
That’s not a bad thing.
Too bad if she was influenced. You could share pretty much what you explained above, there’s not much to lose. Or just move on. So frustrating.
Frustrating is a great word to express how I feel! I think I’m used to it though.
The Facebook tagging stuff isn't worth getting upset about--people have different preferences for how they use the platform, and so there's no point extrapolating secret meanings from the choice to tag in comments rather than tag a photo. I'd unfollow on Facebook so you don't find yourself so irritated that you stop being friends.
I think it'd be a kindness to actually tell her that you don't like it when she gives advice and you don't want her to keep doing it. Don't just assume she should know, because clearly she doesn't. Maybe because she's Mormon, maybe because she's socially awkward, maybe because it's a jokey thing that works just fine with other people but rubs you the wrong way.
That being said, sometimes you get together with someone from your past and it turns out there's not enough there for you to stay in contact. If that's the case, it's no one's fault and you shouldn't feel obligated to keep trying.